Friday, July 31, 2009

Who does't like Valentine's Day Gifts?

I had flowers delivered to my wifes work. I bought (4) cards to give my wife. (1) from our (3) kids and (3) from me. She leaves for work @ 4am so I placed one by her purse after she went to sleep so she would get it in the morning. I placed a card that plays music in her car so she would see it on the way to work. She called me a few time during the day and treated me like a jerk on the phone even though I did not do anything to her. The last phone she bitched at me for buying her flowers. At this point I hung up on her. The kids gave her their card after I got home from work. And I was no longer in the romantic Valentines Day mode to give her the third. I also made a slide show of pictures of us together over the years accompanied by our wedding song. I received thanks for the first card and that was it. I did not realize my wife had become such a heartless *****!

Who does't like Valentine's Day Gifts?
my guess is that she's angry about something else and taking it out on you. Ask her what's wrong. Let her know your feelings were hurt but AFTER you find out what's eating her.
Reply:even if she had a bad day she should have been thoughtful
Reply:Poor guy!





I feel bad for you....








I know I would be happy to get flowers. My ex was about the most selfish, unromantic guy on earth, I never got diddly-squat for Valentine's. You sound like a sweetie, maybe she'll realize that before her attitude drives you away completely.
Reply:It really does sound like there might be something else wrong here, is she stressed? You say she leaves for work at 4.00 am so perhaps she is worn out or simply feels that you guys don't have enough time together.....anyway obviously this is all just guess work, can you try and talk to her calmly about this....remember calmly though, no shouting or making her feel bad, I know this must have hurt after all the effort but she won't talk if you make her feel guilty !! Good Luck
Reply:Usually when a person blows up over something that isn't really rational then they are stressed and still upset about something else that remains unresolved and is causing them duress. Are you having financial issues? Maybe she thought it was a waste of money. Really do some searching and thinking to try and determine what she was actually angry over. No matter the reason for her blow up, she should have handled it differently. Maybe you can tell her how much it upset you. I hope that you all can figure out a way to talk nicely to each other. It's important not only for the health of your relationship, but also for your children's health. They deserve to see a more loving example. Good luck, I hope she works things out nicely.
Reply:Wow ... that is really sweet of you. I can understand why you would not be in the Valentines day mode any longer after her being that way. Sorry to hear that you VD didn't go so well. You never said but did you give her the video? That would have made my heart fill with joy if my husband had done that for me, not complaining my husband gave me a day to mysfl coupon and flowers, and beautiful card with loving words that he wrote himself. He made me amazingly happy and I gave him "you know what" *wink-wink* which he was way happy with. Hope today is better for you. Good luck.
Reply:Awww, that sucks. I would have never done you like. Just the fact you took the time to buy that stuff and put together that slide show for her is sweet. She is ungrateful. I hope your wife doesn't always act like...if so, thats sad.
Reply:You made a slide show of pictures along with your wedding song??





OMG
Reply:You should talk to her about it. Sounds like it's something else that's bothering her. I loved everyone of my presents and the flowers he sent me where my favorite cause they were pink and the card blew me away...I cried.
Reply:Now, this take may have nothing to do with your case. That said, here goes:





Sounds like your wife reacted the way a woman reacts to a man who sees v-day as one day of atonement for 364 of neglect. Especially if money is tight.





Are you doing your share of housework and childcare? Do you put the toilet seat down? Treat her with respect? Satisfy her physical needs even when you're not in a romantic mood?





If everything truly is in order, then she's stressed about something big and if you're a loving husband you'll try to give her the safe space she needs to open up about it.
Reply:WOW... I would have been amazed at the one card.... let alone three AND flowers?! She needs a wake up call.... My husband didn't get me anything, but there isn't a complaint there... I came home to a clean house, rearranged office and living room and he got off the computer, enjoyed a movie with me after the kids went to bed and then well... the rest was our marital fun....





All I can say is SHE NEEDS A WAKE UP CALL. Most guys don't do squat... And she got all that?! Sounds to me like next year, I would just tell her Happy Valentine's Day... and leave it at that... She sounds very ungrateful for what should have been a wonderful day.



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