A question concerning gifts within relationships?

Firstly, I would like to thank you for opening this and taking time out of your schedule to bother with little old me. I really appreciate it.





Now on with the question! My boyfriend recently went to Australia and brought me a beautiful flower necklace back for me! He gave it to me recently when we went out on a date to the movies.





Now I was wondering what the ettiquette for this situation would be. Am I supposed to give him a return gift? And if so, what should I get him?





Once more, thank you for your time and I am looking forward to all of your responses.





Thank you,





♥ Alley ♥

A question concerning gifts within relationships?
First, let me congratulate you on having a boyfriend who seems to be both romantic and considerate! It seems these are becoming fewer and farther between, so kudos to you for finding him, and kudos to the people in his life that helped shape him into who he is. :)





I believe that several people have given you great answers, and I wanted to support their input. It is quite common for those traveling to locations that they consider exotic to bring back special presents for the people that they care for and/or have relationships with. Your boyfriend took the time to pick something that you would love and then found a sweet way to give it to you. That shows that he was thinking about you, even while on a trip to Australia, and that he cares enough to make spending time with you even more special. I'm sure you have already thanked him quite enthusiastically, and you can be sure that he'll notice when you wear the necklace in the future. Your wearing the necklace will show him much more clearly than words could just how much you appreciate his gift.





It is absolutely unnecessary to get him a return gift. If you were exchanging gifts around a holiday or a special anniversary, then a gift from you might be appropriate, but that would have been a gift already chosen for the occasion, not a "guilt-gift" purchased because he already got one for you. If you were somewhere away from him, either locally or internationally, and saw something that you thought he would love, you could pick that up to give him at a later time, but those sort of presents are given because you care, not out of obligation. :)





If you would very much like to do something extra to thank him, putting together a simple picnic or dinner (depending on your tastes and financial position) where you can wear the necklace might be nice. You could also consider having a friend take a picture of you wearing the necklace at work or out with the girls, and placing that in a thank you card. Again, that will let him know that you wear the necklace when you're around other people, not just him, which means that you really do like the gift. :) I know a lot of people who will only bring out certain gifts when they are going to be around the people who gave it to them because they don't really like the gift, but they don't want the giver to know it. :)





I hope that helps! Good luck with your relationship and I hope that, if this guy really is as great as he sounds, you guys will have a lifetime of gifts to enjoy together!





All the best!


Rhea
Reply:No no return gift necessary. It was a delightful gesture on his part and shows that he was thinking of you while on holiday.
Reply:Quigley and Emma are spot on. Andy should shut up.
Reply:Just a simple thank you is quite enough or maybe you could cook dinner sometime for him....
Reply:No need to reciprocate. If you travel, bring him something.
Reply:The only thing you need to do is wear it . No return gift is needed
Reply:I think you should write and mail him a thank you card telling him how much you appreciate his thoughtfulness and how beautiful it is.





And I think you should wear it often. :)





Courtesy and appreciation help a relationship flourish-- and a thank you card would surprise him. :)
Reply:No, just a thank you is enough. Next time you have to travel somewhere bring him back something. You could also make a nice dinner to celebrate the fact that he is back.
Reply:Getting a gift in no way means you need to return the favor. It was very nice of your boyfriend to think about you on his trip..In turn a lovely thank you card with a personal note would be all you should do. If you feel like you need to still do something then cooking a nice dinner, thanking him for the lovely gift. Being appricative for his thoughts of you while he was away....Bobbie
Reply:Only if you travel to another country yourself. It's common for people who travel somewhere to bring back gifts for those who are special to them.
Reply:well firstly i think it was a holiday gift so you return the favour by buying him a gift if and when you go away
Reply:nope he took care of you as he loves you and wants you


this is not a scorebook relationship i hope
Reply:from the way you posted this question I can tell you are such a sweetheart...and if you are like this with your man I don't think he would want any return gift from you because he already got one...YOU!





God bless:)
Reply:BJ
Reply:I think it is perfectly acceptable to receive a gift without feeling required to return the gesture. It limits the blessings to you if you constantly have to return the favor. Let him bless you and gift you. Just remember to think of him in a situation and do something for him or get him something special. In return, if you do this, don't expect anything back. This lessens the generosity of the gift.



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