Help - Am I in a controlling, abusive relationship?! Please advise me...?

I met this guy a year ago, and he seemed so lovely and bought me flowers, gifts etc. Was so loving and I fell for him and we got together... Now he has changed.


I was warned about him when I first got with him, but I thought he seemed genuine. His ex who my sister in law happened to know, told my at the time best mate that it was the worst relationship she had ever been in - told her what to do, what to wear, etc. I didn't believe her, just thought it was her, but now...


Some of the things he does, like he lies a lot, makes things up like what he's supposedly done in his life, lies about so much that he believes it. He has at times tried to tell me not to show my cleavage. He loses his temper so quick and starts over nothing and blames it on me. I was 5min late for dinner once and he started on me even though it weren't my fault. Get's jealous over my guy mates, will get angry if I don't pick up my phone... I once slapped him cos he upset me so much and I felt he was constantly...

Help - Am I in a controlling, abusive relationship?! Please advise me...?
OMG! You are suck a classic abused woman it is scary!!


First ask yourself is this "normal" If you answer yes then run don't walk to the nearest psych ward and check yourself in.


This guy is dirt and he is playing this wicked and hurtful game with you. DO NOT ALLOW IT!! You are strong beautiful and awesome girl and deserve so much more then this. Your friends and family are probably thinking you are an idiot, prove them wrong! This guy calls you back tell him you are no longer interested and please do not contact me anymore. Remember he has you in a psychological strong hold so you are vulnerable.... BE STRONG GIRL!!!


I am rooting for you!!!
Reply:OMG pleae get out of that realtionship. Its not good for you. You are even doubting yourself. You need to get out and get out now before he hurts you even worse.
Reply:get a gun.
Reply:maybe you do need this break you should write to him to let him know how you feel towards this let him realize what he has and what he's going to lose if he keeps it up...


but the real questions are.. do you truly love him, and is his temper and jealous worth putting up with..


in the mean time make sure some one knows about this in case it gets worse..
Reply:I was reading about "battered woman" last night. All the things you said are described in that article I read. Battered woman is someone who does not leave a relationship because she thinks it's her fault and she deserved the abuse as punishment. And you do not want to be a battered woman! Seriously.. I think you are an intelligent girl.. Please leave the relationship.. Change your phone number.. Stay with family and do not leave the house alone.. Always take someone with you until everything cools off. Good Luck :)
Reply:I don't get it...it sounds like you are saying you already ended it...so just don't go back to him. If you are afraid of what he will do now that you have broken up with him...let your friends and family know your situation and make sure you aren't alone for awhile. No one deserves to be in a relationship like that...take some time to get to know yourself and what you want and then you will be ready to start a relationship with someone who treats you with respect.



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