So I asked a question on whether or not I should get my ex gf flowers for her bday..?

I got a bunch of negative responses but I never gave you guys the full story.. our break up was very very sudden. it wasn%26#039;t because of us but it was because of her mom..it%26#039;s been 3 months since we broke up. we still talk and are still good friends and are even in the same college class together. but we don%26#039;t hang out anymore. I know for a fact that she still cares and always will. our situation is just very complicated and very heartbreaking if you knew the story.. but my question was that if I should send her flowers for her upcoming bday. or perhaps another bday gift? we still care for each other, it%26#039;s just that I show it more than she shows it.

So I asked a question on whether or not I should get my ex gf flowers for her bday..?
The way you ended that paragraph is the tell:





Buy her a gift but keep it at the friends level. Flowers are more relationship/hospital gifts
Reply:I was in a breakup many years ago and Valentines day was just around the corner we had been going out for three years and were even engaged, however when the date came around I did not get one thing.


I was hurt at the time and now I see the wiseness in it.


If there is no relationship for whatever reason, unless you are absolutely sure that you guys are friends then don%26#039;t get her hopes up.


When you broke up, sometimes external forces are the reason, but most of the time there are underlying tensions there that could not handle the rough paths that life sometimes throws at us.


It does sound like you still care for her and if you do and she reciprocates then try to get back together.


That would be a great Birthday gift.


Good Luck.
Reply:yes of course she is still your friend!
Reply:If she%26#039;s also consider a good friend, then send her flowers or whatever you please. what%26#039;s the harm in giving someone for their birthdays when you care for them? =)
Reply:i think you should
Reply:No don%26#039;t do it! It%26#039;ll just show her you not strong enough to get over anyone. Plus you more than likely are not going to be the only guy interested in her showering her.
Reply:You should let her get over you. Make it easy for her, move on and let her to.
Reply:i think u shuld... just knowin u still care will mean alot to her.. go for it!
Reply:maybe you shouldn%26#039;t give flowers , too romantic unless you still want to be romantically involved /w her. if so then flowers. if not then give her a card and something less affectionate like a candle or something along those lines. hope it helps :]
Reply:If she%26#039;s still your friend, then go ahead and send the flowers. If you hadn%26#039;t really spoken to her in months it would be creepy, but otherwise, go for it.
Reply:yes. she%26#039;ll think it%26#039;s really sweet %26amp; be glad to know you still care for her.
Reply:Make her a home made card! It shows her that you still care and will spend time on her!



visual arts