Monday, April 20, 2009

I recently told my boyfriend that I'm a virgin and ever since he hasn't really been nice to me?

Is he doing this because he will have to wait awhile for sex? He was so sweet before I told him. He would buy me flowers, gifts, etc. Now he is still a little nice but has completly changed since I told him. Is he not dumping me because he doesn%26#039;t want to be known as the guy that dumped a girl for not putting out? This started the day after I told him.

I recently told my boyfriend that I%26#039;m a virgin and ever since he hasn%26#039;t really been nice to me?
Dump him he only wanted your body. He doesn%26#039;t deserve you. Don%26#039;t let him pressure you either. Stay smart leave him and protect yourself!
Reply:You should call him on his behavior, and talk to him about it. It would also help if you let him know that just because you%26#039;re a virgin doesn%26#039;t mean you won%26#039;t give him handjobs or bIowjobs.
Reply:I think he is an ahole. He was sweet and charming in the beginning because he thought that you were gonna put out, no strings attached etc. Some guys find virgins to be a big responsibility, maybe he is just too immature--drop this guy and be proud of who you are--find a guy who will respect your decisions and be happy that you arent a whore.
Reply:Leave him gurl.virginity is something you can never get back trust me i know.listen to this song it tells you alot .I don%26#039;t know if you listen to rap but listen to this song.lyfe jennings-s.e.x
Reply:when you dump him, remind him that he should have been happy that you hadn%26#039;t had sex with anyone before him. then remind him you%26#039;ll never have sex with him either :D POW!
Reply:well if you dump him - he was doing the %26#039;decent%26#039; thing, I think hes either trying to guilt you into doinf things youre not ready for - or be so horrible, you%26#039;ll get rid of him, you need to lin up a new guy - make it very public - dont have sex with him though! Wait til youre married
Reply:Wow! How awesome of you for telling him. If he is acting differently then I would ask him whats wrong. Maybe something like, %26quot;since we talked the other day you seem different. This is hard for me to and I want us to be open about it.%26quot; If he can%26#039;t talk to you about it then maybe he was after just that or maybe he is not at a point in his life that he can wait. I wish I was still a virgin, but I have been celebate for almost 3 years and I tell you that it makes dating alot easier because you find the ones that really want to get to know you..hope this helps...I%26#039;ve been there
Reply:HE could think you%26#039;re lying
Reply:I don%26#039;t know.
Reply:You should dump him because he seems interested in only one thing. You deserve someone who respects your decision to stay a virgin and still treat you the same. If a guy treats you differently because you don%26#039;t put out, then he doesn%26#039;t really care about you, nor does he respect you. Move on girl!!!! You deserve better.
Reply:You need to ask him the exact thing you asked us and see what his response is! If it is because he just wants to get in your pants he not worth the heartbreak you would be heading for!
Reply:Lets make this simple and cut the chase...he%26#039;s being rude because he knows your not going to put out. You know he%26#039;s changed ever since you told him your still a virgin, and if he%26#039;s acting this way all of the sudden why put up with it??? He needs to like you for who you are, if he doesnt then I suggest you show him the door. Its good that you are waiting until the right time...its your body and the choice is yours.
Reply:I%26#039;d say he%26#039;s sulking because his chances for getting laid have diminished significantly. Move on from him.. he sounds only interested in one thing.
Reply:I would suggest comming out and asking him. There might be some other completly legit reason he%26#039;s acting this way...





If you come out, and ask him directly, he can%26#039;t hide. he can try to come up with some excuse, but i%26#039;m sure you%26#039;re smart enough to know if he%26#039;s telling the truth... if he does have a legit reason to the way he%26#039;s acting, try to help him threw it. if he%26#039;s not being honest, or wont say anything about it, it might be time to move on...





as a man, I would like it for my gf to be able to tell me of any problems she has, even if i%26#039;m the problem... men are problem solvers, if he%26#039;s realy interested in you, then he%26#039;ll want to work threw what ever the problem is... if he wants out, this%26#039;ll give him some excuse to break it off, or even provide you the opertunity to break it off with him...
Reply:u have 2 ask him this





but seriously





anyone who dosn%26#039;t love you enough to wait


dosn%26#039;t really love or care about you.





wait for the right person and don%26#039;t give him what he wants





stay true to yourself





good luck
Reply:Yep, I think he must have thought you would be easier to get.





Now 1) he sees that you are an attractive girl (you must be attractive or he wouldn%26#039;t want to be with you); 2) he realizes that you must have had lots of guys interested in you, because you are attractive; and 3) you have not gone to bed with any of them.





That adds up to someone who has higher standard for sleeping with a boyfriend than he is used to. So he may not get what he wants from you.





All I can say is that you are lucky to have found this out about him now. Some guys would have reacted completely different. Some would have been a little scared by the prospect of being your first lover. (You probably know that it usually hurts some at first.) And therefore a guy like that would be extra nice to you. Other guys would have simply been honored to perhaps have the chance to be your first lover.





He%26#039;s neither of those, and if there is any dumping to be done here, it is you who should be dumping him.





Good luck!!
Reply:Move on. He has very little repsect for you.
Reply:i am a guy - i will tell you what it was like for me





knowing that your gf is a virgin makes you feel really responsible, like shes waiting for you to take that virginity - and it makes you nervous - what if im not good enough? does she really want her first tim with me?





also, sometimes guys arent ready for that responsibility and would rather be in a more casual relationship where less is expected of them
Reply:Wait for sex until your are ready. It sounds like he had some plans in mind and you just changed them. It%26#039;s hard but move on.
Reply:Definitely DUMP him, he is just worried about sex. He should be proud of you for saving yourself, and you should be with someone who respects you!!!
Reply:In this case you should be even more firm on the fact that you want to wait awhile. His true character will eventually reveal itself.
Reply:girl if u told him that and he cant except it than u and him were not ment to be.just move on dont worry you will find someone who can except u for who u r and he will wait with u till the right time
Reply:You should ask him was he happier thinking you were some whore. He%26#039;s probably mad because if you get a venereal disease he can%26#039;t say that you gave it to him! Count your blessings and find someone who is grateful that you are waiting for the right person.



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