Ladies, how long do you stay mad at ur b/f?

My girlfriend lives with me. Whenever we have an arguement (usually dumb stuff)she will not speak to me for at least a week sometimes two.She once accused me of not taking her calls when in reality my phone never rang and she said she didnt believe me and i said no really n she said i was lying and i hung up on her(yes was childish). I apologized when i saw her but she stil didnt talk to me for 2weeks. once tried to talk to her about communication and her having a small anger problem.Baaaad idea!She didnt talk to me for 3weeks! Is this normal?Dont tell me to dump her cus i really love her and most of the time things are great. I%26#039;ve tried apologizing,flowers,gifts and nothing works. Help!!

Ladies, how long do you stay mad at ur b/f?
Honestly when I am mad at my bf I usually on stay mad at him for like 30 minutes if that. If it was something big....then maybe a day, but I am not a quiet person so even when I am mad I am talking to him. This could also be because we live in different states so I don%26#039;t get to see him that often.
Reply:If she%26#039;s not talking to you for 2 weeks at a time she%26#039;s got anger management or control issues. Sounds like some of each. Sounds like an excuse not to deal with you, you%26#039;ve got bigger things going on here that minor arguments. Sit her down and tell her that the cold shoulder for that long is childish and you need to learn to communicate with one another or split up. And be firm about it, this is ridiculous.
Reply:What she is doing is very unhealthy to yr relationship. Rejection is never easy to take, especially from someone you care about. This can be hurtful, frustrating, and confusing.





%26quot;The silent treatment,%26quot; or withholding encompasses any unwillingness to express your true feelings. It also includes an unwillingness to give support, praise, or positive attention to the people you love. Many of us will recognize our own tendency to withhold our emotions rather than express them. Emotional pain is at the root of our tendency to withhold, and withholding causes pain to the people subjected to it. It is a dysfunctional pattern that creates a breakdown in communication and understanding.





No one deserves to be subjected to withholding. Feeling ignored, disrespected, or shut out, and to not know why, is a terrible feeling. The first thing to remember is that you are not to blame. You are caught in your girlfriend’s pain pattern. She does not know how to express feelings in a healthy way probably because this is what she learned when she was a child. The second helpful thing to remember is that she is acting out of pain. She is stuck in a habitual mode of response that is self-defeating and alienating to the people she loves. Remembering this will help you feel compassion for the person hurting you. However, if you have suffered too long with this pattern, you may need to get some space. Take some time to look at your own patterns and understand why you have taken part in this drama. You can step up to the plate to help break the chain of this behavior pattern.
Reply:I stay mad for about 15 minutes. We talk it out and life is good. We never go to bed mad. It sounds like your girlfriend doesn%26#039;t really love you and you need to leave that relationship. It%26#039;s not normal at all. Get out and find someone who loves you back.
Reply:Until he comes and apologizes to me because it is usually his fault.
Reply:So she%26#039;s NOT speaking to you?? Count your blessings dude.



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