Need advice regarding my so cal mother inlaw?

Well i am 20 and my bf is 22 right well we been up and down on our relationship and still standing strong for 2 yr 4 months right well we took a 3 month brake last summer but our feelings were still calling us so we went back right , well my family is so much loving to him and i am the oldest of all my siblings but he is the youngest well my family took him back and invite him to our famiy events well on his side his mom dont like hearing from me or anything right but i do so much to try to show him i am interested on his (ex i buy her flowers, gift cards for rest., i even wrote her an email asking her to get to know me) well she has ignored all stuff and my bf just told me last night that she dont appreciate me in her sons life and i am a easy girl which is all bull crap right i go to church with my fam i still live with my fam i have no kind of records and much more which has me torred up now.. what should i do say or act ? he obviuosly is defending her...

Need advice regarding my so cal mother inlaw?
I had a boyfriend with his whole side of the family like that. It really sucks. All you can do is ignore her. You've tried all you can to work it out with her and she is obviously not willing to have a relationship with you right now. Still be polite of course, it IS your man's mom. But just focus more on your relationship with him. And it's not about you, it's about HER. So don't take it on. About him defending her...most guys will. There is a big connection between most moms and sons. I guess if it bothers you, tell him. But I wouldn't worry about it so much. Unless you tell him and he blows it off and you still feel upset. Then I would say to end it if you can't handle it. Anyway hope this helps....BTW, nice background on your avator! =]
Reply:Wow! ... I would honestly just let her be. You are with her son not with her, and what does he have to say about all this? is he supportive of you and you're feelings? I would simply concentrate on making you're relationship work of course as long as he's there with you all the way and doesn't believe what his mom has to say, i think she'll eventually come around she will have no choice,she's risking losing her son!
Reply:If you never played head games with this guy, Don't try anymore. If you see her still be pleaseant. Your boyfriend still planes to be with you. She can never say you were mean or disrespectful. It's your boyfriends place to invite you to his family gatherings. Who knows what your boyfriend told his mom when you two would break up all the time. Maybe it's been drama?
Reply:if he is defending her...wat is he doing with u then?! he should be sticking up 4 u...especially if he knos ur not easy. u should go talk to his mom face to face....and stern but respectful...yet her kno how u feel and if she has anything to say behind ur back...she should say it to ur face right now. u get on him too. i get on my husband as well when it comes to inlaws.
Reply:Baby girl, you've taken her baby from her and it's going to take time for her to her use to the idea. All the jokes,movies, and stories about mother-in-laws have some truth in them. Stay committed to your husband and your marriage and I promise she will begin to accept you.
Reply:I would say... keep trying to be respectful towards her. Personally, I think she should let you two figure out whats going on btw you two. Let your BF know how you feel, but dont make him choose between you and his mom. If you care a lot about him and believe things will work out with you and your bf than eventually she'll come around and understand that. It's just hard right now because, that is her son, so she probably is protective. At least you know that if things don't work out in the end you have a very supportive family. Good Luck :-)



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