If a guy isnt all romantic with flowers etc.. is it cause he deosnt care about his gf????

Some guys think the world of their gf's and shower them with gifts, what about the guys that dont?


My bf doesn't and I ALWAYS tell him, for 3 years thats what I want... HELP!!

If a guy isnt all romantic with flowers etc.. is it cause he deosnt care about his gf????
some guys hold there emotions back and show them in different ways its not that he doesnt like in fact hes prob in love with you if he has been with you for 3 years its just that he shows his love in a different way that you may not notice
Reply:I don't know if it's that he doesn't care. You should check out the book "5 love languages". Some people's love language is giving....some physical touch. My boyfriend is DEFINATELY giving. If you don't think you can mesh with their "love language" maybe you should look elsewhere for a mate OR explain to him that while he may not know it, you fell LOVE when he gives you things. Just how he feels loved when you (blank). Three years is a long time, but some people can't give you what you need and that's okay, but that doesn't mean you have to stay.
Reply:You have the wrong idea. You are basing you relationship on material things and that will never work for long. If you are so insecure you feel that you have to have gifts, take a look at why you feel that way. Sorry, there is no help anyone can give you. If you like the guy and he likes you, that is gift enough. Bottom line, are you for sale to the one who brings the finest gift? I guess not. Think about it. Your girl 'friends' are bragging. Don't let it get to you.
Reply:Some guys aren't. These guys may not have had a lot of affection growing up. Get yourself something nice if he doesn't/
Reply:I have learnt: Just because somebody doesn't love you the way you think they should love you, doesn't mean they don't love you with all that they have.





This is a quote I have pinned (amongst others) on my notice board to remind me that sometimes people just see things differently to me.





I have come to realise that you can't change someone to be who you want them to be ~ maybe your boyfriend gives you all that he has to give %26amp; flowers %26amp; gifts just aren't who he is.





If you love him you will let it go. If you can't let it go maybe you should let him go %26amp; find someone who does shower you with the flowers %26amp; gifts you so desire... however, remember, the grass is not always greener...
Reply:Don't tell him, your killing his opportunities. Haha, the thing I hate the most is when my gf ruins my surprises by telling me she wants that sort of thing or she's expecting it. I don't want to give it to her after that. And well, maybe he doesn't have the right resources to shower you with gifts, but yeah, three years is a long time, he could have done it occasionally, but is he thoughtful of you? If he is, then he still cares, if you want the gifts, go get a nice person, preferrably younger or older who wants you more than you want them, you'll see the gifts stacking up.
Reply:Just because a guy doesn't give you gifts, it doesn't mean he's not romantic. Being romantic isn't all about giving gifts. Think about the other sweet things he's done for you, like maybe he calls you everyday to say "I love you" just to let you know that or he spends a lot of quality time with you. The little things that he does for you, whether you notice it or not, proves he can be romantic. If you are happy with the guy you're with, you shouldn't complain. I mean did you ever do anything romantic for your guy?
Reply:well if he doesnt appretiate u maybe u guys should take a break %26amp; then maybe he will notice %26amp; start!!
Reply:It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, why would you think that. He just isn't sensitive to those sorts of things and doesn't see why he should. You should know if he cares about you or not, how does he treat you otherwise?
Reply:I think some guys just aren't into the whole cliche thing of flowers etc maybe they just wanna do their own thing. But from what u say some do nothing. 3years wow maybe u should try going to extremes ignoring him ask him why he doesn't do that then ask him what he's prefer to to do instead.
Reply:your boyfriend is like my girlfriend. idk, i think that its something to do with, if you are more loving than them, they always feel loved, so they dont have any reason to think that you dont, but if you stay back a bit, they might be more apt to think about things liek that. im not sure though.. im currently trying to set the right distance from my girlfriend.. dont want to be either clingy OR distant!
Reply:Some people just do not like romance. You can't just assume because he doesn't shower you with gifts that he doesn't love you. It would be the same as saying if you don't give him oral and have sex with him at his every request, you don't truly love him.





Some people are just not romantic and you can't force it out of them. If romance is something you need in a relationship, then find yourself someone romantic as you're not going to get it out of him. Romance is just a way of showing the person you care about them. There are more than one way to show someone how you care. Keep that in mind.
Reply:my ex was like that and i eventually broke up with him and all of a sudden there was a load of roses on my front door....


Not telling u necessarily to dump him but .. I'm glad I did...


Hope that helps?
Reply:Some guys minds just don't think about flowers and gifts.





I would say the true test is how a guy treats a girl all the time that tells how he feels about her.





The same thing for the guy - how does she treat him all the time?





Are they respectful of your feelings? Polite to you? Make you happy more than sad?





There are a lot more important things in a relationship than silly gifts.
Reply:they aren't too smoothe when it comes to that, it doesn't mean they don't care. stop telling him you want him to send you flowers and just be so incredible that he wants to shower you with gifts and tokens of love.maybe try pointing out something he does that no other bf does and he'll start to get it
Reply:it doesnt mean he doesnt love u


it might mean he doesnt have the money now


it might also be that he isnt the romantic type


every girl wants to be showered with gifts and kisses and met the most romantic guy but sometimes it doesnt work out like that but sometimes u love him the way he is
Reply:dont take him for granet just kinda drop hints like leave empty boxes of chocalote around and b like o no im out of chocolate and then look at him and say do u wanna b a sweety and buy me some and when that package runs out u can buy me more and then after that....u get the piont


hope i helped!!



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